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In the waiting, there is a gift greater than the ring. Photos courtesy of writer.

When Salt&Light writer, Peck Sim, wrote her story, “I wanted the God choice, not just the good choice: Waiting on God through 20 years of Valentine’s Days“, the response from readers – particularly singles – was swift and heartfelt.

Many were encouraged by God’s perfect timing and plan.

Peck’s story is one of 35 in the newly released book, Salt&Light: Inspirational Stories of Faith in Love – a collection of powerful true accounts revealing God’s heart for us in marriage, relationships and singlehood.

In a peek behind the scenes, Peck shares this update to her story.


March 29, 2024, was a good day.   

It was good not just because it was Good Friday, but also because it was the day I heard four words I did not think I was ever going to hear: “Will you marry me?”   
 
After waiting 20 years for God to bring me to a life partner, I had given up hope. Even my mother had stopped nagging at me to get married.  
 
I met The Man very soon after I abandoned mission.  

The One 

The first time we met, I felt like I had known him since the beginning of time.  
 
I soon realised he was the sort of man God had been sketching out for me all my life – a man of integrity who has never changed his tune in the 1,037 days that we have known each other; a man whose days are anchored in God; a man who loves Jesus and loves people; a man with all the other bonus bits I wanted but never dared ask for.  

Being with him makes me want to love people more.

The Man makes me laugh out loud and often. He writes like a dream and cooks like a master chef. 

But I knew he was The One because being with him makes me want to love people more. He says I make him want to love God more.  

The Man proposed on Good Friday because “it epitomises the most extravagant kind of love, when Jesus laid down His life for His beloved”.

He wanted each anniversary of our engagement to be a reminder that true love is sacrificial, and that sacrificial love was best exemplified by our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.  

The proposal came on Good Friday because The Man wanted the anniversary to be a reminder of the sacrificial love of Christ for us.

I understood then that we would grow in a way we would not have done on our own. I believe God brought us together to become lifelong friends who could help each other become the persons He designed us to be. 
 
We are getting married in seven days but I still have to pinch myself now and then to remind myself this man is for real. 

His banner over me is love

“Your story convinced me that it was worth waiting on God because when He provides, He always gives the best,” a 20-something reader told me after reading my Salt&Light story on waiting 20 years for God to bring the right man.  
 
The man I am about to marry is the opposite of me in so many ways, but the same. He is God’s banner of love over me. 
 
Another young reader has become a friend after she reached out to me.  
 
“I really do struggle with being secure in who God made me to be. My singleness has coloured the way I view life.

“From you, I have learnt that God never makes us wait for nothing.”

“I find it difficult to tell anyone because very few people in my life are going through the same thing. I thank God He led me to your story.  
 
“From you, I have learnt that God never makes us wait for nothing,” she told me.  

Several friends have circulated the story among friends struggling with singlehood, but I was surprised to learn that a pre-believing friend who came across my story on my social media page had shared it with her circle as well. 
 
I have asked God often during the season of waiting if 20 years were really necessary.  
 
I know now that it was.  
 
In the years of waiting, Jesus didn’t just give me a man after His own heart.  
 
He gave me Himself.

Just released! Salt&Light: Inspirational Stories of Faith in Love

Salt&Light: Inspirational Stories of Faith in Love launches December 10, 2024.
Now available for pre-order here.

Please note that only orders made by December 10 will be delivered by Christmas.

Salt&Light: Inspirational Stories of Faith in Love focuses on God’s heart for us in marriage, relationships and singlehood.

Draw inspiration so that you, too, may experience life-giving faith in your relationships, even through times of testing.

To purchase a copy or bless someone with one, or simply to support the work of Salt&Light, please click here. $15/copy just for this launch (usual price $20). 

To purchase our other books, Salt&Light: Inspirational Stories of Faith at Work and Salt&Light: Inspirational Stories of Faith in Families, click here.

If you have any queries or for bulk purchases of more than 10 books, please email [email protected]

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About the author

Peck Sim

Peck Sim is a former journalist, event producer and product manager who thankfully found the answer for her wonderings and a home for her wanderings. She now writes for Salt&Light and also handles communications for LoveSingapore.

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